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I need to work on that

Started by John Hawkins · 2 months ago

It has become apparent that I need to work on the way I respond to people when I’m a slight bit agitated. It seems I have pissed off (and hurt feelings of) a few people that I love recently with the way I reacted to a seemingly infinitesimal event. Some details, if you please.
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  • David

    8 months ago

    I think that you were not in any "wrong" doing - normally you may have done this same exact thing before on many occassions. This might be a situation for...Gender Man!

    You share the power in the house, being co-owner, co-parent, and general extrovert in a pair of "verts." The power of a gender can multiply by 100 in a room with only 1 addition of a gender, because the balance is tilted toward favor of one gender. In this case, the matriarchal figure is "times 2," taking 1/3 of your total gender clout away in your normal home experience.

    Also, your immense respect for your wife and for your mother (simultaneously) just shows your senses were prone to becoming over-wrought, in which case most average guys with immense respect would, without thinking twice, be a little abrasive as a response of the super-ego, in order to keep the pressure (of expectation and command) "off."

    Perhaps the ladies were sharing a sacred bonding moment (without words or actions, just being) that was interrupted, no matter by you or a air-raid siren - they would have reacted the same to either.

    Normal ways of handling the stress of expectation go out the window when the power balance shift as dramatically as having your wife and your mother bonding in the same space you are trying to do your normal routine in.

    Let's just hope you don't get hooked on Season 9 of America's Next Top Model.

    BTW, a great way to relieve the stress of expectations made by other people is to meditate and concentrate on recreating your inner being - while getting a massage! :)
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  • 4th Place

    8 months ago

    You're married so the first question when you want to change the channel for ANY reason is: "Is anyone watching this?". Just like if you want to switch the radio "Is anyone listening to this?". I know that this may sound sarcastic but it's not. You are no longer solo-man your actions almost always affect someone in your house and you are the one looked at for being the "Man". You ask first, solves all problems and isn't really that big of a change (we don't want to rebuild Rome here).
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